Creative Mothers Series – Michelle Crosby

Welcome to the Creative Mothers series – a fortnightly series of guest blogs for people to reflect on the impact of parenthood on their experience of personal creativity. If you would like to take part with your thoughts, please take a look at the Creative Mothers page and do get in touch.

Today Michelle, who blogs at, shares her thoughts about the place creativity has in her life now. She tells a tale of creativity lived once, lost and rediscovered.  I think her story will resonate widely.

It doesn’t sound as though Michelle’s had the easiest ride, through life-changes and anxiety, yet her words are positively stirring! A call to arms for us to be proud of our identity but to recognise the need for that identity to be shaped by ourselves...


When I was at school I was many things. An actor, a musician, a dancer, a writer. I participated in plays and concerts, choreographed dance routines and even wrote a string quartet as part of my A level Music course. Every lunchtime and evening after school would be spent at some form of practice. Creativity was part of my everyday life.

Now I’m a mum. Just a mum. Or at least that’s how I felt for a long time.

My boys are 7 and 3 and I spent a lot of time during those first precious years as a parent commuting up and down the M6. Working days could be anything up to 12 hours long and I felt stuck between work and family life – unable to fully commit myself to either.

Creativity had been slowly disappearing after leaving school, University life offering far more exciting things than band practice! But now it had gone completely. No longer a priority in the busy life of a working mum. A change of job brought different pressures and a different motorway to negotiate but the underlying problem still existed. I was a terrible mother. I was useless. I couldn’t cope.

Fast forward a few years and I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. It took a long time for me to admit that there was something wrong. I was convinced I was simply a bad person; lazy, pathetic, emotional, needy. Despite having given up work to look after the kids I still felt inadequate compared to all the super-mums around me. A combination of counselling, CBT and medication has finally put me on the right track and I’ve started to rediscover my creative side.

I didn’t start 2016 with a burning desire to change my life, instead it was more a matter of opportunity and timing. My youngest was starting nursery and I suddenly had a full 2-3 hours a day to play with! So on 6th January I published my first blog post, ‘To blog or not to blog?’ It received a massive 22 hits but it opened up the possibility of something I wouldn’t have even considered just a few months earlier.

After the initial fear factor and constant inner monologue (‘What an Earth am I doing?’ ‘What will people think?’ ‘Don’t be stupid.’ ‘You can’t be a writer?’, etc. etc.) I actually started to enjoy myself. A few people came up to me and said they enjoyed reading my blog and that they wished they could write. Rather than being ‘just a mum’ I was now a mum who also did a little bit of writing on the side!

Since then I’ve written a number of short stories, had an article published on an online parenting site, entered writing competitions and made a very tentative start on a first novel. I’d love to win a prize and be published (let’s face it, who doesn’t need an ego boost every now and then?) but more importantly, I’m doing something I love. Something for me and no-one else.

I’m still a mum and I always will be, but I’ve now allowed myself the space to be so much more. I write in those precious few hours in the morning when the kids are at school and nursery. I spend far too much time on Twitter but have been able to link up with writers (both published and budding amateurs like myself), bloggers and publishers all over the world. In fact, I’m writing this post due to a chance Twitter connection with the lovely Lucy!

I’ve learnt that there’s no such thing as ‘just a mum’. Instead it’s a label we often attach to ourselves to justify not having a ‘real’ job. Parents, whether working or not, are project managers, constantly dividing their time between conflicting priorities and we owe it to ourselves to gives ourselves a break every now and then.

I’ve finally accepted that allowing myself ‘me time’ in order to be creative is as important as getting the kids to school on time. It keep me healthy and helps maintain my sanity in some of those more challenging parenting moments! For some people it will be taking an art class, going for a run or baking a cake. Whatever your passion I encourage you to grab it with both hands and stop feeling guilty about spending time on yourself.

I’ve finally re-discovered what had come to me so naturally when I was at school, and it only took 20 or so years to do it!



You can find Michelle at and on Twitter @TheTrueMC. Do go and link up…and is it just me that thinks 22 views for a first blog post is pretty good? Take a digit off that number for mine!

If you enjoy this series, please do check out the Creative Mothers page and contact me to be involved – I’d love to hear from you. 

And if you enjoy my blog and want to know why Brilliance in Blogging ‘vote for me’ badges pop up on it in places you might like to read this post.

Diary of an imperfect mum

21 thoughts on “Creative Mothers Series – Michelle Crosby

  1. I don’t think anyone viewed my first blog post at all! 🙂
    Another great post. It’s lovely to hear when someone has been able to find time for themselves to do something creative that they enjoy.


  2. I am so glad you’ve been able to channel your creativity again; it sounds like it’s a huge part of who you are and something you are passionate about. You sound like you are creating lots! I totally agree that you need to do these things to make sure you feel like more than ‘just a mum’. I think it actually makes you a better mother and partner when you have made time for yourself or to follow your passions.

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  3. I have started blogging for similar reasons, but you are doing far more than me so well done you! 🙂 I’d love to write children’s books and thought blogging may help me, but I had underestimated how much time it takes with social media! I am so glad that you have been able to rediscover your creativity and I hope that this helps you to keep a bit of you in the crazy parenting haze 🙂

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  4. this is really inspiring, it’s nice to hear about a mum finding the time for doing what she loves. And I must admit I’m quite excited about my daughter starting school in August, so I get some proper time for writing! Great idea for a series, I look forward to reading more. #familyfun

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    1. Thank you Kate, I adore this series…it’s so lovely finding out people’s creative motivations and how creativity has impacted on their lives. Michelle has replied to everyone a few comments down…underneath Catie – diary of an imperfect mum. Thank you for your comment x


  5. I love this post – it’s so easy to get caught up in feeling like you are “just a mum” and I can really relate to blogging helping you to find yourself and embrace your creative side again. Good luck with writing the novel Michelle! Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun 🙂

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  6. This is a gorgeous post as full of so much eventual positivity and I love that – you didn’t give up, you didn’t succumb to negativity and anxiety – I’m so thrilled that you found your creative outlet and are enjoying it so much. I started only a month before you so still have all that energy of being a newbie that I really hope does not dwindle! #familyfun

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  7. It’s so important to carve out some ‘me’ time to do something that fulfills you creatively when you have kids – I’m so glad you found blogging! I started blogging for similar reasons and it’s become something that I really look forward to doing each day. Good luck with your novel – I’ve tried to write one myself but don’t think I have the patience! #FamilyFun

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  8. I really enjoyed reading this post – it echoes a lot of my feelings and why I also started to blog. Particularly when Michelle wrote:
    I’ve finally accepted that allowing myself ‘me time’ in order to be creative is as important as getting the kids to school on time.
    SO true! It is important to our mental health to have me time.Never Just a mum! TY for linking up to #FamilyFun 🎉

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  9. Thanks for all your lovely comments and apologies for the delay in replying (I’ve only just figured out how to – creativity does not necessarily equal technological know how!) Thanks to Lucy for the opportunity to contribute to such a fantastic series.


  10. I think that most Mums (Ok, all Mums) are creative in some way. They may not see it that way but we really are! I’ve been “just a Mum” for 10 months now, but I’ve never ever referred to myself this way. Motherhood is the best thing I’ve ever done! #familyfun


  11. I don’t think anyone is ever just a mum and if they feel they are then maybe a mum is much more than the just they think they are if that makes sense!! we as mums are all sorts. But i think your creative mummyness is awesome! #familyfun


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